http://www.thisamericanlife.org/radio-archives/episode/122/valentines-day-99
There's a hint of things around this world, especially when you deal with stories, that one of the best types of loves, one of the types that make you want to cheer for the couple and make them come together, are the love stories that should never happen. No one cheers for the couple that is cute together, that meets in a normal setting that are a normal story, everyone wants the couples that doesn't fit well together, where something is off.
It can be a Romeo and Juliet sort of love where families hate families. It can be long distance, over social classes, or anything else. It's the weirdest thing ever. Two people that work well together, that should be together, people don't care, but if you put one in power and the other as their coworker or anything like that, and suddenly it's a block buster movie where everyone cheers for the couple that needs to fight against all odds.
We like it when people have to fight for their relationship.
What sucks is when you have to be the one fighting for that relationship.
The idea of fighting to be with one another is something different than the actual process of telling your family to shove it and go against everyone that is around you just to stick with the one person that you want to be with. Trying to fight for the person that you want to stay with is not romantic, it's tiring.
People think that it's romantic to fight. People think that it's romantic to try to put a couple through hell just to make it together, but it's not romantic, it makes you want to quit. I would have loved it if parents and parents in law were friendly towards us (and each other). I would have loved it if we were easily together. I would have fought for the chance of us having oportunity to be together without having to work so hard for it.
The reason why is that it's hard enough to keep a relationship together and functioning when life is good, starting it out with a struggle is just gimping it. Instead of my wedding day being happy and a huge celebration it was a giant mess of emotion and drama that no one needs on that sort of day. The day that was supposed to be one of the happiest days of my life was riddled with people throwing fits, nothing going right, and the only thing that I wanted to happen being done by lunch and then the rest of the next twelve hours was horrible.
Fighting for a relationship is not fun, it's not romantic, it's not something that I hope anyone has to go through because it doesn't make your relationship stronger, it makes you start your entire relationship off with burning bridges, salting the earth, and destroying ties that you need to have around you if you're going to keep going into the rest of your relationship.
I hate romantic stories of a couple that has to struggle to be together. They're not romantic, they're frustrating.
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